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Monday, 15 October 2012 20:29

Your Anxiety Does NOT Define You

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Don't let anxiety define who you are

So, I've dealt with anxiety for the better part of my life and for a long time, I really felt like it was defining who I was as a person.  I was dead wrong.  Anxiety and the problems that are associated with it are simply one of my deficits and you know what?  That's ok.  It's really no different than me looking at my having fair skin as a deficit or a disadvantage because I get sunburns easily. 


All I do to deal with it is use sunscreen, problem solved!  Now comparing a sunburn to having an anxiety attack is REALLY dumbing it down but the principle is the same isn't it?  With anxiety, we try several different coping mechanisms and some work and some don't but we still try.  It's why we're here trying to get in touch with other people with the same issues so we can talk about it.


I say all of this knowing that I don't always feel this way because my anxiety does feel like it consumes me at times but at the end of the day, this is not who I am.  Anxiety cannot beat me no matter how hard it tries because I'm still here and if you're reading this, I'm pretty sure you're still here too.  Still here fighting every day to make our lives as good as we can with a common goal:  to be happy. 


I challenge each and every one of you with anxiety problems to look in the mirror and speak directly to your anxiety and simply say, "You cannot beat me".  We're better than that.  We're actually normal believe it or not.  It took me a long time to figure that out and I might need your supporting words at times when I'm weak but I'll be strong enough to ask for them.  I believe in all of you as I hope you believe in me that we can make sure that this does not rule us.  It's simply just one of those things we have to deal with......and that is ok.

Last modified on Monday, 15 October 2012 21:33


  • Comment Link Katie Walters Thursday, 28 March 2013 04:53 posted by Katie Walters

    Thank you! I'm having a really hard time with this right now. I'm really looking forward to getting better.

  • Comment Link pandora Friday, 15 March 2013 01:15 posted by pandora

    yes u have to take it a day at a time and dont let it beat u

  • Comment Link James Nelson Tuesday, 23 October 2012 12:35 posted by James Nelson

    I'm so glad Teressa! That's really what I think we're all trying to accomplish here. We all will have good and bad runs in our days. I have found this to be a great support system simply because I'M NOT ALONE which helps give me comfort.

  • Comment Link TeressaMW Tuesday, 23 October 2012 03:49 posted by TeressaMW

    I just read your entry and your words are wonderful. I've had about three good weeks in a row without any excessive anxiety and was feeling pretty good overall when it hit me like a train today. It was a pretty rough day and I felt like I was just surviving it until I read your post. It's very inspirational and exactly what I needed to put this back into perspective. Thank you!!!!

  • Comment Link demita1979 Monday, 22 October 2012 05:29 posted by demita1979

    I never thought about my anxiety defining who I am. But you are right!!! Thanks for putting that into perspective for me!

  • Comment Link chelly2011 Tuesday, 16 October 2012 19:45 posted by chelly2011

    This is a fantastic entry! I love it...and so very true :)

  • Comment Link James Nelson Tuesday, 16 October 2012 12:28 posted by James Nelson

    Thank you for the kind words! I'm glad you enjoyed it!

  • Comment Link bkbkj Monday, 15 October 2012 23:30 posted by bkbkj

    what a excellent entry. it sure puts things into perspective. i am going to print it and hang it on my refrigerator. thanks!

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